She Builds Her House

Freud believed that we are a product of the mental health that our inner child had in the past. Some of us grew up with an alcoholic parent, some others were sexually abused and some children grew up under abject poverty which is a big stressor in childhood.  I am a Christian psychologist that thinks more in humanistic perceptions. Humanistic psychologists say that every human being has the capacity to chose the life they want to live. They can choose to live a creative, meaningful, and satisfying life. I believe that every human being has the capacity to shine over the shadows of the past but I am worried about these days because they are becoming parallels to what Freud used to think. Freud's thoughts can be applied when parenting our children. We are raising the future adults that will pack the hospitals because of panic attacks and depression. It is scary for me to know that a child has symptoms of depression at the age of 5. The good news is that parents were given by G...

Self-fulfilling prophecies are expectations that direct people to act in ways that make these prophecies come true. Many times we make mistakes when judging a child's future by the mistakes of his or her parents and in this way, we also mark his or her future. I will give you an example: I have heard so many times phrases like: "You are going to end up like your mother." The girl is then judged if she is seen talking to a boy. She is judged for her mother's mistakes, even if it was just a mistake. This girl will grow up thinking that her destiny is to make the same mistakes that her mother did and that is how the prophecy of her future is fulfilled by herself without realizing it. It also happens with the child of very limited resources who at an early age is told: "Stop studying so much, you better work because the poor never stop being poor even if they study." This boy will hardly finish college. . . As a Christian, I fully understand that my fut...