Effects of absent parents in child development

Freud believed that we are a product of the mental health that our inner child had in the past. Some of us grew up with an alcoholic parent, some others were sexually abused and some children grew up under abject poverty which is a big stressor in childhood.
I am a Christian psychologist that thinks more in humanistic perceptions. Humanistic psychologists say that every human being has the capacity to chose the life they want to live. They can choose to live a creative, meaningful, and satisfying life.
I believe that every human being has the capacity to shine over the shadows of the past but I am worried about these days because they are becoming parallels to what Freud used to think.
Freud's thoughts can be applied when parenting our children. We are raising the future adults that will pack the hospitals because of panic attacks and depression. It is scary for me to know that a child has symptoms of depression at the age of 5.
The good news is that parents were given by God in order to pave the way for their children.
What if today we at least try to be a good and caring parent; a parent that is involved and asks what is going on in the child's life; a parent that sacrifices time to have a meaningful conversation with his or her child.

There is no time anymore to raise children. It is more important to check my social media account or to justify my bad behavior with the most common and used phrase in our times: "I need my space."

Children are growing without self-esteem with a poor self-evaluation about themselves. They don't know if they are good or bad behaved children. Their self-image is completely distorted and most of them will experience the same mental disorders as orphans.

Why?

Because mom and dad don't have time to raise their own children. They don't have time to pave the way to a successful and happy life for their children. They don't care about making good memories anymore.
We give our children to youtube or video games to babysit.
No one asks why does an 8-year-old has become so addicted to Fornite or why he explodes in anger or feels so frustrated at his age. His parents still puzzle about his suicide and choose to believe that this 8-year old child was just mentally ill and they make the system guilty because it did not provide educational resources about suicide behavior in schools.

What is happening to us, parents?
May this pandemic help us to wake up and redirect our paths.

" Be alert and of sober mind. Your enemy the devil prowls around like a roaring lion looking for someone to devour." 1 Peter 5:8

Healthy environment for a girl

Unlike boys, girls have innate observation skills, including the ability to recognize tones in their voices. For example, when you breastfeed a girl and she bites you, you will immediately make an expression of pain. The girl will then hardly repeat it again. On the other hand, the little boy will be less able to recognize his mother's displeasure and will ignore it. By understanding this, it is important to emphasize that girls are more susceptible to their environment and more observant. That is why in times of financial stress or marital conflict the most affected will always be the girls. Girls always observe even those small steps that we believe as parents that they did not observe. Just take heed. . . References: Dobson, J., Dr. (2010). Bringing up girls (Building a family legacy). IL: Tyndale momentum.

How can I get my child to eat

That our child does not want to eat is one of the biggest concerns that parents face during the growth of our children. When children reach the age of 2 years, it is normal that they become too selective at mealtime. What used to be delicious today is simply "yucky". Parents should not be so concerned about this period. Most children consume what is necessary for their growth. But if you still feel concerned about this issue, here I will share with you short methods to motivate your child to eat. 1. Reward your child when he decides to eat something healthy. In one study (Cooke et al., 2011), when children received a reward after trying a vegetable, consumption of this vegetable increased six times and persisted for approximately 3 months even when they no longer received rewards. Examples of rewards could be stickers, paper flowers or small paper figures, such as Origami. 2. Show your children photos of children of the same age eating healthy food. Children tend to im...

Recognizing child predators

According to Coon & Mitterer (2010), Most child molesters are married and a third of them are parents. In cases of pedophilia, the offender is a close friend or relative of the child (Abel Wiegel & Osborn, 2007.) Most sexual abusers are passive and religious. They consume child pornography and as children were also victims of or witnesses to sexual abuse. According to studies practiced by Elliot, Browne, & Kilcoyne(1995), these are some tactics used by child molesters: 1. Most of them act alone. 2. Most abuse takes place in the abuser's home. 3. Many abusers gain access to the child through child care. 4. Children frequently receive toys, candy, games, or prizes from the abuser. 5. The abuser tries to hook the child into his sexual trap through open sex talks or by showing explicit images of it. 6. The abuser then uses threats, force, and anger to gain complicity with the child and thus keep him silent and subdued. Coon, D., & Mitterer, J.O. (2016). ...

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