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Difficult children make unhappy parents and encourage negative parenting. Adults who lack self-confidence as parents end up being despised by their children. These parents desperately try to appease their children's misbehavior through play and fun. In a home without rules, children do what they want. Children can also sniff a parent fearful of them and the result of this is deep contempt. Children love power games and for them, disrespect and contempt get along together which is the opposite of affection and discipline. Parents' goal should be to express genuine love to their children; dedication combined with reasonable discipline; define limits and set their leadership. Remember what the word of God says:  "Correct your son and he will give you rest, and he will give joy to your soul." Proverbs 29:17 Also, remember that disciplining your children is not physically abusing them by brutally punishing them. References: Coon, D., & Mitterer, J.O. (2016). Introducti...

1. Never talk or show your feelings. Never express gratitude towards your partner. 2. Just pretend that everything is always fine. Be accommodating even if you are upset. 3. Always win, never lose. 4. Always be busy. In this way, you can make your partner feel little, worthless and unimportant. 5. Always be right. 6. Never debate for fear of having differences. 7. Thinking that the couple is a fortune teller and knows everything. 8. Taking care of personal needs first without looking after the needs of the couple. 9. Not having shared dreams. 10. Keep the television on at all times. References: Coon, D., & Mitterer, J.O. (2016). Introduction to psychology: gateways to mind and behavior (14th ed.). Belmont, CA: Cengage Learning.

The biggest gift that you can give to your children will not be your home or your bank account. The greatest gift that you can give to your children is your time. Parents today are so busy with work and school that there is no more time to share with their children. The world tells us when we should be mothers and how many children we should have but it tells us that taking care of children is wasting our time and that only rich people are happy. So, we see parents working 16 hours a day to achieve that coveted happiness; meanwhile, there is a son alone at home with a desire to talk. Your child does not need you to stop working and spend 24 hours a day, but he does need a little quality of time where he can tell you about his friends, his favorite shows, and those important things in life.  Having family time keeps your children away from bad decisions. According to studies, the ladies who remain virgins until marriage have had excellent communication with their mothers and a very ...

According to the Early Child Care Research Network, you can enroll your child in a quality daycare without fearing of dangerous consequences. What is important to avoid is to enroll the child in a low-quality facility and to avoid for the baby having to spend long hours under the care of third parties (even when it is a quality daycare). This fact added to the neglect of the parents about the child when they get home can have serious consequences in the mother-father-child relationship. Poor quality child care can create problems that previously did not exist in the child. If you are looking for a daycare for your child it is important to take into account the following: * There has to be a small group of children under the care of one caregiver. * The caregivers of this place must be trained. * Minimum staff turnover within the daycare. In accordance with the above, you can enroll your child in daycare while maintaining the same attachment with your child. At the same ti...

Many are the brides that experience a drop in self-esteem before marriage. Luckily, a bride won't need a designer wedding dress to build her self-esteem neither she will need to spend hundreds of dollars to hire the best stylist in town. A bride's s elf-esteem begins with the security of having a loving husband. You are already beautiful to the eyes of the man that you love. The man that is close to marrying you. The great advice that I can offer you is that instead of highlighting all of the things that you don't like about your body,  highlight the physical features that you like the most and invest some money in showing them up. For example, if you have beautiful lips, invest some money to buy a special lipstick or lipgloss. Indeed, you will have boosted your self-esteem by the end of the day.  Another great advice to boost your self-esteem is by having a quality of time for you. Treat yourself for a day in the spa, a massage or just have some coffee with your...

"There is a so-called 'spectator apathy' effect that reveals to us that people often fail to help when other potential helpers are around. When it comes to a wedding, almost everyone believes or suppose that everything has been planning ahead or that there is someone that is ready to help when something just goes wrong. This is why it is wise to make one person responsible for your wedding in order for you to enjoy and relax. For example, a wedding planner will be in charge to look for a stylist that is going to assist you at every moment in the event. In my whole experience, I have seen brides with a messy makeup but nobody has dared to tell them to retouch their makeup or hair. So, when the wedding photographer came with the wedding pictures, they screamed in hate and deception over all of their guests, and these brides instantly regret their decision to not hire a wedding coordinator. Every bride should know that there is no one to make guilty as there is a d...

Here are some characteristics of children who are or have been sexually abused: 1. They no longer show interest in matters related to their sexuality. 2. Depression, low self-esteem, irritability, or estrangement from family, friends, and school. 3. Nightmares or sleep problems. 4. Bad behavior, aggressiveness, suicidal behavior, or unusual high-risk behavior such as riding a bicycle in the middle of traffic, climbing very tall trees, among others. (Coon & Mitterer, 2010, pg. 386.) Parents should teach their children to say no and to assert their tastes and preferences, as well. It is important to teach them that it is not correct to keep secrets and it is necessary to maintain full control over the child's social networks to avoid sexual abuse. References Coon, D., & Mitterer, J.O. (2016). Introduction to psychology: Gateways to mind and behavior (14th ed.). Belmont, CA: Cengage Learning.

If I don't give him what he asks, he will leave me. Could it be true? Many are the women who fall into this trap; but let me tell you that if you give in to what you do not want to give in, your partner will use you to satisfy his sexual needs over and over again until he will completely lose sexual interest in you and then he is going to leave you. According to Coon & Mitterer (2010), "There is the so-called Coolidge effect, in which a male (speaking of animals) is allowed to mate as many times as he wants with a female. After a time, the male will lose interest in this female but when providing him with a new female, he will feel the deep desire to mate over and over again until he is bored." (p. 343). The Coolidge effect is also applied to humans. That is why there are many women that we see these days only used. No matter how we can satisfy his sexual needs, the man that pressures will end up bored and will immediately seek a new love that does not make hi...

Fighting with fiance over wedding planning can happen especially when we don't know what is the best time to discuss matters of importance related to the big day. It is very common to see that relatives and friends want a share of opinion when it comes to deciding over someone's wedding. I want to share with you just two simple tips to avoid pre-wedding fights: 1. Verbal insults and threats are linked in parallel to high temperatures. Avoid starting a conversation about wedding planning when it is very hot outside. Wedding plans should be discussed in a cool place. 2. Every time you have to discuss something important related to the wedding, serve a cool drink for you and the other person or people involved in the conversation. Sometimes planning a wedding can ruin a relationship especially when both of the families want different weddings for their children. These short tips can help you to avoid those pre-wedding fights that sometimes happen right before the wedding...

Freud believed that we are a product of the mental health that our inner child had in the past. Some of us grew up with an alcoholic parent, some others were sexually abused and some children grew up under abject poverty which is a big stressor in childhood.  I am a Christian psychologist that thinks more in humanistic perceptions. Humanistic psychologists say that every human being has the capacity to chose the life they want to live. They can choose to live a creative, meaningful, and satisfying life. I believe that every human being has the capacity to shine over the shadows of the past but I am worried about these days because they are becoming parallels to what Freud used to think. Freud's thoughts can be applied when parenting our children. We are raising the future adults that will pack the hospitals because of panic attacks and depression. It is scary for me to know that a child has symptoms of depression at the age of 5. The good news is that parents were given by G...

Happy people are efficient and productive workers. Many times we err thinking that our salary should be destined only for the payment of debts or bills and to cover the needs and tastes of others but never ours. That is why some people look at work as a burden and not as a blessing. People who feel guilty about enjoying their salary are full of frustrations, and frustration only causes bitterness, aggression, and unhappiness. It is important that you as an employee invest a weekly or biweekly amount of your salary for your personal delight. Take yourself to dinner at your favorite restaurant or simply buy the little accessory that you looked in the mall last time; the same time when you were buying shoes for your children.  It is healthy for you and for those around you that you enjoy your work and enjoy it. Today I invite you to follow the advice of the wise Solomon when in Ecclesiastes advises us to enjoy the fruit of our work. God bless you today with peace ♥ John 3...

Self-fulfilling prophecies are expectations that direct people to act in ways that make these prophecies come true. Many times we make mistakes when judging a child's future by the mistakes of his or her parents and in this way, we also mark his or her future. I will give you an example: I have heard so many times phrases like: "You are going to end up like your mother." The girl is then judged if she is seen talking to a boy. She is judged for her mother's mistakes, even if it was just a mistake. This girl will grow up thinking that her destiny is to make the same mistakes that her mother did and that is how the prophecy of her future is fulfilled by herself without realizing it. It also happens with the child of very limited resources who at an early age is told: "Stop studying so much, you better work because the poor never stop being poor even if they study." This boy will hardly finish college. . . As a Christian, I fully understand that my fut...