Why do people stay in abusive relationships

The persistence of some people trying to maintain an abusive and toxic relationship is something that continues to amaze us. That is why I would like to explain a little about this behavior so you can understand why these people never give up.

1. These people have a distorted view of reality as they justify their partner's toxic and harmful behavior based on the few good memories they treasure. This is how they justify bad behavior and abuse as a result of bad luck. For example: "Maybe she or he had a bad day at work."
"Maybe she or he is tired." "It is because his or her traumas from the past.", in short, the account is infinite.

2. These people believe that no matter how much physical or emotional abuse they may receive, eventually, the toxic person(the abuser) will change.

It is very sad to know that people who become attached to a toxic relationship hold in their hearts the hope that if they work hard they will eventually make the abuser change. When people become attached to a toxic relationship, frustration, anger, anxiety, and depressive events will accompany them. The solution is to restructure thoughts and deal with the problem in an objective and mature way.
Mourning for that person even if he has not died is the most recommended step to leave a toxic relationship. It is necessary to understand that such a beautiful relationship with the abuser will never come to reality because it has already died. After the grieving process, may these people never miss the gift of forgiveness and compassion for the toxic person that now they can see.

God has great plans for you! It is time to bury those hopes that sink you to a toxic relationship. Fix our eyes on Jesus that without a doubt, his plans go beyond what you and I can see.

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