She Builds Her House

A man does not cheat on his wife because she is ugly, homely, or because he got fat. A man is not unfaithful either because his wife spends more time with her children or because "nothing is the same anymore." The man who feels that nothing is the same in his marriage talks to his wife to seek to improve the marriage, especially if there are children involved since divorce is devastating for children. The man who is unfaithful is unfaithful because it excites him to be unfaithful. The adrenaline that man feels when he is unfaithful is so great that its effects can be compared to the same that cocaine produces.  Unfortunately, if your husband is unfaithful to you, he will not change. Consider yourself tied to a drug addict. We generalize by saying that only men are unfaithful, but also women tend to be. We blame our men for overworking or not being romantic, just for mentioning a couple of examples.  In both scenarios, a spouse can not blame third partie...

The persistence of some people trying to maintain an abusive and toxic relationship is something that continues to amaze us. That is why I would like to explain a little about this behavior so you can understand why these people never give up. 1. These people have a distorted view of reality as they justify their partner's toxic and harmful behavior based on the few good memories they treasure. This is how they justify bad behavior and abuse as a result of bad luck. For example: "Maybe she or he had a bad day at work." "Maybe she or he is tired." "It is because his or her traumas from the past.", in short, the account is infinite. 2. These people believe that no matter how much physical or emotional abuse they may receive, eventually, the toxic person(the abuser) will change. It is very sad to know that people who become attached to a toxic relationship hold in their hearts the hope that if they work hard they will eventually make the abuser c...

Children need to talk It is important for children to talk to their parents no matter their age. There will be a time when your son or daughter will need to talk about important issues, but since their parents never encouraged the habit of conversation, this helpless human being will have to discuss this important issue with his or her friends. You will lose that privilege of knowing what is going on in your child's life and you will also miss the opportunity to help him or her. So, let's start today. . . Here are some healthy activities that even exhausted parents can implement to keep the habit of good conversation with their children: 1. Dinner with the family with televisions and cell phones turned off. 2. Play board games on weekends. (Monopoly, chess, etc.) 3. Cooking together. 4. Building things together (puzzles, small cars, houses with pallets, etc.) 5. Adopting a pet. 6. Cultivating mutual interests. For example; sewing, crafts, painting, etc. Remember t...

Unlike boys, girls have innate observation skills, including the ability to recognize tones in their voices. For example, when you breastfeed a girl and she bites you, you will immediately make an expression of pain. The girl will then hardly repeat it again. On the other hand, the little boy will be less able to recognize his mother's displeasure and will ignore it. By understanding this, it is important to emphasize that girls are more susceptible to their environment and more observant. That is why in times of financial stress or marital conflict the most affected will always be the girls. Girls always observe even those small steps that we believe as parents that they did not observe. Just take heed. . . References: Dobson, J., Dr. (2010). Bringing up girls (Building a family legacy). IL: Tyndale momentum.

According to the psychological theory of Functionalism, learning new things helps us adapt to the various situations we face. In a nutshell: Learning new things helps us to be able to face various traumatic situations throughout our lives. In this difficult situation that we face in the world regarding COVID-19, it is very common that the emotional health of many people is being affected, and to avoid falling into depression or anxiety; I recommend using this theory in your lives. Invest your time reading an educational book or, make use of free internet platforms where you will find cooking courses, sewing, design, or carpentry workshops, to mention some examples. Learning new things will help you keep your mind busy😉 It's not about saying, "Stay home." It's about saying, "Do what you said you wanted to do if you had time."

According to Coon & Mitterer (2010), Most child molesters are married and a third of them are parents. In cases of pedophilia, the offender is a close friend or relative of the child (Abel Wiegel & Osborn, 2007.) Most sexual abusers are passive and religious. They consume child pornography and as children were also victims of or witnesses to sexual abuse. According to studies practiced by Elliot, Browne, & Kilcoyne(1995), these are some tactics used by child molesters: 1. Most of them act alone. 2. Most abuse takes place in the abuser's home. 3. Many abusers gain access to the child through child care. 4. Children frequently receive toys, candy, games, or prizes from the abuser. 5. The abuser tries to hook the child into his sexual trap through open sex talks or by showing explicit images of it. 6. The abuser then uses threats, force, and anger to gain complicity with the child and thus keep him silent and subdued. Coon, D., & Mitterer, J.O. (2016). ...

The good news for today is that your children won't need many toys or designer clothes to build their self-esteem. Self-esteem begins with the security of having a loving family. It is important to emphasize that self-esteem, specifically in girls, depends on the relationship that they have with their father rather than on the relationship that they maintain with their mother. Always tell your children how beautiful or cute they look, hug them and highlight the physical features of them that you like the most. Increase your children's self-esteem by spending a little quality of time with them (remember that quality is always better than the amount of time). Always tell them that you love them and that you are proud to be their mother. If they feel that they are loved at home and that mom and dad are proud of them, no one will take away their self-esteem even when the turbulent times of adolescence come.

It is important to invest time in teaching our children about manners, modesty, and morality. The American Psychological Association known by its acronym in English APA, warns us that sexualizing our girls leads to three of the most common mental problems in girls and women: Eating problems (Obesity, Bulimia, and Anorexia)  Low self-esteem and,  Depression.  Allowing your daughters to use sexy clothes at an early age will bring you too much trouble.  It is clear that as parents, we are failing when we allow the use of erotic and sensual clothing for our daughters at an age where they still cannot discern for themselves what is good or bad. We are responsible to control this behavior as we are the ones who pay for their clothes. Let's dress our girls like girls! Let's let them live their innocent childhood healthily in modesty and morality. Be an involved parent and set limits and rules for your daughters and boys in your home. "There is a time for eve...

Have you ever wondered when is the best time to discuss matters of relative importance in your marriage? According to John Simester and Cary Cooper (2005). There is a direct relationship between violence and temperature. Verbal insults and threats are linked in parallel to high temperatures. That is, when the temperature is high, avoid arguments with your husband and children. Difficult conversations should be talked in a cool place. If your partner or your teens have just arrived from the sunny street, it is not a good idea to start a discussion or to complain about something right away. Do you need to discuss difficult or stressful issues with your spouse? First, prepare a refreshing drink and offer him some time to rest under a stream of refreshing water before talking, and don't forget to prepare a good meal. After this, you can start this difficult conversation.  These tips can also be applied in other areas of our life; with our friends or co-workers, for example. D...

That our child does not want to eat is one of the biggest concerns that parents face during the growth of our children. When children reach the age of 2 years, it is normal that they become too selective at mealtime. What used to be delicious today is simply "yucky". Parents should not be so concerned about this period. Most children consume what is necessary for their growth. But if you still feel concerned about this issue, here I will share with you short methods to motivate your child to eat. 1. Reward your child when he decides to eat something healthy. In one study (Cooke et al., 2011), when children received a reward after trying a vegetable, consumption of this vegetable increased six times and persisted for approximately 3 months even when they no longer received rewards. Examples of rewards could be stickers, paper flowers or small paper figures, such as Origami. 2. Show your children photos of children of the same age eating healthy food. Children tend to im...